Our Idiot Brother is not, thankfully, another drug and sex summer comedy, though it almost feels like its headed in that direction in its open scene. We meet the “idiot brother,” Ned (Paul Rudd) at a farmers market in a quaint little town. A uniformed police officer approaches Ned’s table, which is scattered with fresh veggies, and admits that he has had a hard week. He implies that he could use a little marijuana to pick up him up, and Ned, stupidly but nonetheless endearingly, offers some weed to the cop. He is promptly arrested.
This heart-rending sense of honesty is how Ned operates in the world. At one point he explains his life’s philosophy. Give other people the benefit of the doubt, he says, and they’ll rise to it. That attitude makes Ned a hilarious oddball, something of a cross between Jeff Daniels’ Harry Dunne from Dumb and Dumber and Jeff Bridges’ The Dude from The Big Lebowski. Not a bad recipe for laughs.
After Ned is released from jail, he finds out that his hippie girlfriend has brought another spacey doofus onto the farm, and Ned is forced to move back with his mother on Long Island. There we meet Ned’s sisters. Liz (Emily Mortimer) is married to the wealthy documentary filmmaker Dylan (Steve Coogan), who, in typical Coogan style, is a self-serving pompous ass of the highest proportions. Miranda (Elizabeth Banks) is a single aspiring writer who works for Vanity Fair and is trying to score her first break-through profile piece. Natalie (Zooey Deschanel) is a sex-crazed lesbian who’s caught in a kind of youthful period of self-destructive soul-wandering.
Liz, to Dylan’s dismay, tells Ned that the door to their Manhattan brownstone is always open, which the overgrown innocent takes as open offer to crash at their house. He moves in, forges a bond with their son, but begins unravel the lives of the adults, in part, by witnessing Dylan’s infidelity. When things get uncomfortable at Liz’s, Ned couch surfs over to Miranda’s place, and then to Natalie’s, all the while upsetting the normal rhythm of their lives with nothing more than his honesty.
In many ways Ned is just a dramatic foil, the wide-eyed innocent who shows up in his Manhattan-dwelling sisters’ lives just to make their world’s complications feel silly and superficial. But Rudd digs to find not only a likable goofiness in Ned, but an underlying sense of conviction. After all the laughs and foibles, we find that this is not just a hazy-headed hippie.
In one of the film’s best scenes, Ned scolds his sisters for ruining a family game of charades. It is a surprisingly jarring, moving scene. Ned proves that his sense of self-worth and unchecked capacity for love is anything but flakey. Despite all the laughter and skewering of our self-important worlds, there is a sense that deep familial hurt dwells beneath Our Idiot Brother’s welcoming surface, a pain or suffering that undercuts the present day trials and tribulations. Where is the family’s father? Why did Ned careen down such a drastically different life path than his sisters? Why do these women feel hell-bent on self-destruction? We never get any clear explanations because we don’t need them. We all know how families work. Beneath the laughter, we know that the unspoken things are precisely those that haunt us most acutely.